As I walked around the produce area in QFC, with my girls in the driving cart and my son at school, my eye was drawn all the way across the department to a Mom, with a baby on her back and a preschooler by her side. She was smiling and laughing as her baby slept, snuggled in close to her spine.
I couldn’t help but wander over. Happy moms with happy kids draw me in…..especially ones with a unique style and gorgeous baby carriers….I’m aware how bizarre this must sound. Unless you get it and in that case, I wish we could high five right now.
Pushing my big cart over, I told her I liked her baby carrier and we chatted for a second. Smiling and laughing, it was like we both shared an incredible secret about Motherhood: That yes, this is the hardest job, but it’s also the absolute best, most incredible thing we could ever do and deep down inside, we know we don’t always enjoy it, but we should smile, laugh and have fun. This whole Mothering gig wasn’t meant to dry us up into wrinkled, grouchy and bitter women. Mothering wasn’t mean to leave us gasping for air, it was meant to be good, to refine us and make us better and when we look for it, there’s SO much goodness. So we chatted briefly in QFC and then we went on our way…..As women we are really comfortable talking about what’s going wrong and then giving each other advice on how to fix it. But when someone asks us what’s going well, we get all squirmy and uncomfortable. While we spend a lot of time complaining about how being a Mama is taking everything out of us, our kids are still convinced we’re the best thing on earth…..Shouldn’t we be able to comfortably talk about what we’re loving and what’s going great?
There’s a saying that goes something like “What you focus on the longest becomes the strongest”. In everything, we can choose to dwell on the negative or we can accentuate the positive, by shining light on it. We aren’t saying that hard stuff isn’t there, we’re just choosing to shine our flashlight on the more beautiful side. So, today on NW Healthy Mama, we’re going to share what we’re currently loving about being a Mom. We’re putting the hard stuff up on the shelf and throwing the windows open to the good.I’ll start! 5 Things I’m Loving About Motherhood Right Now:
1……Seeing the person my 7 year old son is becoming. I thought as he got older, maybe I’d get slightly less crazy about him, but how wrong I was. You know that emoji with the heart eyes? Yes, that’s me when I look at him.
3…..That I finally feel like I’ve reached a place where it’s clear to me that Mothering and taking care of myself go hand in hand. They don’t need to be separated. The first few years of being a Mom were 100% about the kids and it was an unhealthy balance. I’ve come to a place where taking care of me and being my own person is valuable to me and since the pendulum has shifted, I feel like I’m happier as a Mom.
4…..The tribe of women being a Mom has made me part of. Talking specifically about MOPS here. Mothering has created this unique avenue in which I’ve been able to get to know many incredible ladies. It’s such a blessing to be in friendship with other women who make me want me be the best Mom I can be.5….The fact that no matter what happened during our day, every night when those kids are asleep, I swear they are the BEST people in the entire world—and I’ve felt this way for 7 years. It just keep on getting better! They can drive me crazy, but at the end of the day, I just can’t get over these kids. They make me want want to be kind, healthy and fun. They inspire me to want to play my part in making this world a kinder, more loving place.
Sometimes when you pick up your child you can feel the map of your own bones beneath your hands, or smell the scent of your skin in the nape of his neck. This is the most extraordinary thing about motherhood – finding a piece of yourself separate and apart that all the same you could not live without. -Jodi Picoult
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