The Goodness of Motherhood 5

DSC_0215As I walked around the produce area in QFC,  with my girls in the driving cart and my son at school, my eye was drawn all the way across the department to a Mom, with a baby on her back and a preschooler by her side. She was smiling and laughing as her baby slept, snuggled in close to her spine.

I couldn’t help but wander over. Happy moms with happy kids draw me in…..especially ones with a unique style and gorgeous baby carriers….I’m aware how bizarre this must sound.  Unless you get it and in that case, I wish we could high five right now.

Pushing my big cart over, I told her I liked her baby carrier and we chatted for a second. Smiling and laughing, it was like we both shared an incredible secret about Motherhood: That yes, this is the hardest job, but it’s also the absolute best, most incredible thing we could ever do and deep down inside, we know we don’t always enjoy it, but we should smile, laugh and have fun. This whole Mothering gig wasn’t meant to dry us up into wrinkled, grouchy and bitter women. Mothering wasn’t mean to leave us gasping for air, it was meant to be good, to refine us and make us better and when we look for it, there’s SO much goodness. So we chatted briefly in QFC and then we went on our way…..DSC_0218As women we are really comfortable talking about what’s going wrong and then giving each other advice on how to fix it. But when someone asks us what’s going well, we get all squirmy and uncomfortable. While we spend a lot of time complaining about how being a Mama is taking everything out of us, our kids are still convinced we’re the best thing on earth…..Shouldn’t we be able to comfortably talk about what we’re loving and what’s going great?
PicMonkey CollageThere’s a saying that goes something like “What you focus on the longest becomes the strongest”. In everything, we can choose to dwell on the negative or we can accentuate the positive, by shining light on it. We aren’t saying that hard stuff isn’t there, we’re just choosing to shine our flashlight on the more beautiful side.  So, today on NW Healthy Mama, we’re going to share what we’re currently loving about being a Mom. We’re putting the hard stuff up on the shelf and throwing the windows open to the good.DSC_0242I’ll start! 5 Things I’m Loving About Motherhood Right Now:

1……Seeing the person my 7 year old son is becoming. I thought as he got older, maybe I’d get slightly less crazy about him, but how wrong I was.  You know that emoji with the heart eyes? Yes, that’s me when I look at  him. 

2……The way my girls play together. The sister bond is strong with these two and I love it.
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 3…..That I finally feel like I’ve reached a place where it’s clear to me that Mothering and taking care of myself go hand in hand. They don’t need to be separated. The first few years of being a Mom were 100% about the kids and it was an unhealthy balance. I’ve come to a place where taking care of me and being my own person is valuable to me and since the pendulum has shifted, I feel like I’m happier as a Mom. 

4…..The tribe of women being a Mom has made me part of. Talking specifically about MOPS here. Mothering  has created this unique avenue in which I’ve been able to get to know many incredible ladies. It’s such a blessing to be in friendship with other women who make me want me be the best Mom I can be.DSC_02475….The fact that no matter what happened during our day, every night when those kids are asleep, I swear they are the BEST people in the entire world—and I’ve felt this way for 7 years. It just keep on getting better! They can drive me crazy, but at the end of the day, I just can’t get over these kids. They make me want want to be kind, healthy and fun. They inspire me to want to play my part in making this world a kinder, more loving place. PicMonkey Collage2

Sometimes when you pick up your child you can feel the map of your own bones beneath your hands, or smell the scent of your skin in the nape of his neck. This is the most extraordinary thing about motherhood – finding a piece of yourself separate and apart that all the same you could not live without. -Jodi Picoult


So what are you enjoying about Mothering right now?DSC_0274

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And now….Let’s shed some light on the goodness of Motherhood. What are you loving about being a Mom right now?

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About Angela Strand

Angela is a wife, mama to three little ones and a lifelong Washington State resident. Besides facilitating the NW Healthy Mama website, she loves being involved in her kids' school, hiking with her girlfriends, growing all the things, writing, reading and taking photos.

5 thoughts on “The Goodness of Motherhood

  • Andrea Laughery

    I was going to say those dresses are ADORABLE. I’m headed to the site now! Love this post and your ever-genuine and inspiring outlook on life. I love love love how much Ellie is imitating and trying to do everything we all do right now (brushing her hair, putting on shoes, putting on her own hat, etc). And Ben has the absolute funniest things to say. They are so intertwined with who I am and I’m so thankful for them every single day (even when I know these days with a 3.5 year old and 1 year old are about as intense as it will get)!

  • Kristina

    I keep saying that these kids teach me so much about how to love others. My oldest, he still adores his sister even though she drives him crazy more than anyone on this earth. They can go from fighting like wild dogs to shrieking and giggling and chasing each other through the house in 2 seconds. I learn about not holding grudges from that one. And my littlest, she loves wide open and holds nothing back. She inspires me to do the same. And, of course, they both make me laugh like nothing else – especially in their craziest moments!

  • Jessie Emslie

    This is such a great post! It’s so easy to get bogged down by the hard moments. Thanks for the reminder to acknowledge all of the good that comes along with the tough!

    As for me, I’m loving the creativity and imagination that comes with the fun age of three. Luke amazes me daily with his humor and his keen observations.

  • kelley

    Shining our flashlight on the positives. This true before, during and after raising a family. Good words Angela, really good.

  • Janet Wilson

    Thank You for this Angela. I often find myself feeling uncomfortable when I read all the negative comments from moms. I feel that they need to feel the joy and gratitude of mothering. Yes,there are difficult times,but hopefully so many more reasons to celebrate!
    Also I LOVE your girls dresses!!! :}

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