Have you ever noticed how easy it is to buy coffee a few times a week, but how hard it is to justify paying for a yoga class? What about paying for medical appointments, healthy food or even counseling? As women, we are so quick to throw a few extra things into our cart at Target, while neglecting our own health and well being. This is so backwards, because as Moms and wives, we’re like the glue that holds everyone together. We know what needs to be done, when it needs to be done. If you’ve ever been sick for a few days, you know what I’m talking about.
So today, we’re talking with money coach Nicole Cooley, about the importance of allowing room in your budget to care for you. We’d love to hear the ways you’ve cut back in other areas, in order to make your health a priority! -Angela
Motherhood. I’m seven months in and I have no idea what I’m doing. Sometimes things go as planned, it works and it’s awesome. Other times it goes awry and we fall into survival mode.
I don’t think I’m any different then your average mom, trying to process the highs and lows. I want to connect and be authentic about my experience with other moms, sharing experiences. But so far I have found that the blogging world mostly focuses on the HARD and the in person discussions are a little polished.
I want to know the authentic struggles, the real wins. What part of the roller coaster are you on today?
One of my biggest struggles in my transition into motherhood is learning to take care of myself. Before having a baby, self care was never something I intentionally did… it just happened.
Now, caring for my mind and my body is much harder. It takes a lot of effort to carve time out for yourself. But it didn’t take me too long to realize that getting back to feeling like “myself” wasn’t just going to happen, I was going to have to make it happen.
So, I made a list of all the appointments/classes/activities that I needed for my physical and emotional health and I slowly started working my way down the list. As I started making health appointments and signing up for different exercise classes, I realized it was getting expensive! I shouldn’t be spending this much money on myself! I continued to struggle with this until I remembered this mantra I love:
What’s healthy for you isn’t always healthy for your wallet
Sometimes I need to re-learn the lessons I teach. As a money coach (I’m a nap time hustler!) people often think I’m going to tell them to stop spending, cut back and budget. But that isn’t necessarily true. I just want your spending to be mindful, aligned to your values and intentional.
Mindful is taking the yoga class. Mindless is filling your cart with random “stuff” at Target.
Why do we have such a hard time spending money to take care of ourselves Mamas? We need to give to ourselves as much as we give to others. Make the doctors appointment, replace the tattered shoes, keep up your regular hair cuts, buy the new book.
I’m here to give you permission to make that investment into yourself. Give yourself what your soul is craving. It will come back to your family ten fold in what you are able to give to them when you have focused on filling yourself up first.